Dienstag, 24. Dezember 2019

Why I have to go back to Vietnam - Warum ich wieder nach Vietnam reisen muß


Deutsche Version weiter unten / German Version scroll down please.

For many years I didn't post here about my family research. I stopped it after my visit to VN in 2012. The main reason was that I had tried to accept that I most likely won't find my half-sister Karin after all these years. The information I had about her and her mother were too little. Of course, this also was self-protection to avoid getting lost in the fate of my father's life and his time in Vietnam.
Wolfgang Redlich ca. 1949
The years went by and I continued to search for other family members. Until today I already found more than 2.000 people which are now part of my family tree. To me this was impressive - I never had thought that this was possible.
But you never know, and life has always surprises for you.
In August 2019 an uncle died aged 96. He was the widower of my father's sister Helga. I have spoken to him about my research, but he explained that he had no further documents or good give me additional information that could explain the decisions that my father made in his youth.
My cousins had to clean up the house for preparing to be sold. They found in the cellar, hidden under the wood for the fireplace, a folder full of letters that my father wrote between 1950 and 1962 to his mother, mostly from Vietnam. They are full of new information and of course explain many things about the life of my father and why he made some decisions.




Of course, there are some information in it about my half-sister.
In a letter from January 1957 he explained to his mother why he deserted from the Legion Etrangere in January 1956: He wanted to stay with his wife and his daughter Karin, born on 7th January 1955. They took this decision because he was about to be moved to Algeria into the next war and because his wife was pregnant with a baby in the sixth month. After he deserted, they hide in the area of Rach Goi (near Can Tho) because the family from his wife was from that little town in the Mekong Delta. He was very sick for several month and only survived because his wife found an apothecary who treated him free of charge. They had nothing and the wife even lost the second baby during that time. My father was in a depressive mode because of that, but then he was able to find a job in a rice mill in Rach Goi. He enjoyed the work although he had to work many hours every day, especially during the rice harvest season. He made a career there and after one year he oversaw the whole rice mill. he bought some land for rice with the help of his wife’s family and had animals like ducks, chicken, piglets.
With this information I better understand now why my father always gave Rach Goi as his home address at the German Embassy in Saigon and why they moved there. I now have the date of birth of my half-sister.
Unfortunately, he never mentioned the name of his wife, but he always wrote full of love about her.
So, with this new information it is worth to try to pick up the loose threads again and give it a new chance.
On 2nd January 2020 I will fly to Ho Chi Minh again and this time my daughter Lotta and my sister Karin will be together with me in Vietnam for three weeks. We will travel to these places where my father lived (Saigon, Rach Goi, Nha Trang) and visit some other places. We will search and remember but also have a good time together. Stay tuned – there is more to come in this blog in the next weeks.

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German Version:


Viele Jahre habe ich hier nichts mehr über meine Familienforschung geschrieben. Ich habe es nach meinem Besuch bei VN im Jahr 2012 eingestellt. Der Hauptgrund war, dass ich versucht hatte zu akzeptieren, dass ich meine Halbschwester Karin nach all den Jahren höchstwahrscheinlich nicht mehr finden werde. Die Informationen, die ich über sie und ihre Mutter hatte, waren zu dürftig. Dies war natürlich auch ein Selbstschutz, um mich nicht in dem Schicksal meines Vaters und seiner Zeit in Vietnam zu verlieren.



Die Jahre vergingen und ich suchte weiter nach anderen Familienmitgliedern. Bis heute habe ich bereits mehr als 2.000 Personen gefunden, die jetzt Teil meines Stammbaums sind. Für mich war das beeindruckend - ich hätte nie gedacht, dass das möglich ist.

Aber du weißt es nie und das Leben hat immer Überraschungen für dich.
Im August 2019 starb ein Onkel, er wurde 96 Jahre alt. Er war der Witwer der Schwester meines Vaters Helga. Ich hatte mit ihm über meine Nachforschungen gesprochen, aber er erklärte, dass er keine weiteren Unterlagen besitze oder mir zusätzliche Informationen geben könne, welche die Entscheidungen meines Vaters in seiner Jugend besser erklären könnten.
Meine Cousins mussten das Haus aufräumen, um es auf den Verkauf vorzubereiten. Sie fanden im Keller, versteckt unter dem Holz für den Kamin, eine Mappe voller Briefe, die mein Vater zwischen 1950 und 1962 an seine Mutter schrieb, größtenteils aus Vietnam. Sie sind voller neuer Informationen und erklären viele Dinge über das Leben meines Vaters und warum er einige Entscheidungen getroffen hat.







Natürlich gibt es einige Informationen über meine Halbschwester.
In einem Brief vom Januar 1957 erklärte er in einem Brief seiner Mutter, warum er im Januar 1956 aus der Legion Etrangere geflohen ist: Er wollte bei seiner Frau und seiner Tochter Karin bleiben, welche am 7. Januar 1955 geboren wurden. Sie trafen diese Entscheidung, weil er im Begriff war nach Algerien in den nächsten Krieg abgerufen zu werden und weil seine Frau im sechsten Monat schwanger war. Nachdem er desertiert war, versteckten sie sich in der Gegend von Rach Goi (in der Nähe von Can Tho), weil die Familie seiner Frau aus dieser kleinen Stadt im Mekong-Delta stammte. er war mehrere Monate lang sehr krank und überlebte nur, weil seine Frau einen Apotheker fand, der ihn kostenlos behandelte. Sie hatten nichts und die Frau verlor in dieser Zeit sogar das zweite Baby. Mein Vater war in einem depressiven Zustand, bis er eine Arbeit in einer Reismühle in Rach Goi finden konnte. Er genoss die Arbeit, obwohl er jeden Tag viele Stunden arbeiten musste, besonders während der Reisernte. Er machte dort Karriere und betreute nach einem Jahr die gesamte Reismühle. Er kaufte mit Hilfe der Familie seiner Frau etwas Land für Reis und hatte Tiere wie Enten, Hühner und Ferkel.
Mit diesen Informationen verstehe ich jetzt besser, warum mein Vater Rach Goi immer als seine Heimatadresse bei der Deutschen Botschaft in Saigon angegeben hat und warum sie dorthin gezogen sind. Ich habe jetzt das Geburtsdatum meiner Halbschwester.
Leider erwähnte er nie den Namen seiner Frau, aber er schrieb immer voller Liebe über sie.
Mit diesen neuen Informationen lohnt es sich also, die losen Fäden wieder aufzunehmen und ihr eine neue Chance zu geben.
Am 2. Januar 2020 fliege ich wieder nach Ho Chi Minh und diesmal sind meine Tochter Lotta und meine Schwester Karin für drei Wochen mit mir in Vietnam. Wir werden an die Orte reisen, an denen mein Vater gelebt hat (Saigon, Rach Goi, Nha Trang) und einige andere Orte besuchen. Wir werden suchen und erinnern, aber auch eine gute Zeit zusammen haben. Bleibt also dran - es wird in den nächsten Wochen noch mehr in diesem Blog geben.


Mittwoch, 15. August 2012

On my way home

Dear followers, thanks to a young but good doctor I could avoid a surgery and at this moment I am sitting in the Business Lounge at Nha Trang Airport. Waiting for the flight to Saigon. From there I will take a flight to Frankfurt and a train to my hometown. I should arrive there Thursday mid day local time.

Donnerstag, 9. August 2012

An unexpected change

Dear follower, caused by a medical problem that I actually have, I can not go to my next planned town in Da Nang. I have to stay in Nha Trang for medical treatment. I am happy that it looks like that there is no surgery necassery. But I can not fly to Da Nang and that is really sad. I have to stay in Nha Trang for five days, then I have to fly back to Germany.
I keep you informed as soon as I feel a bit better.

Mittwoch, 8. August 2012

On the farm

Today we went to the area of Cam Tan.
From Nha Trang it is less then an half an hour to drive
First we visited the home for disabled children in Cam Lam. It is one of Ursula's newer projects in this region.
About 30 - 40 children go here every day, some are even living here. There are four nuns looking after them. The chrildren were so happy to see us and embraced us all the time.
They really liked to be photogrraphed
Me too!

A German student helping Ursula in the project with many children and a mother
Most of the disabilities are long time effects of the chemical weapons used by the US army during the Vietnam war. Most of us might know "Agent Orange", a chemical used widely by the US army to defoliate the trees in the jungle (10th of August is "Orange Day" in Vietnam - that day the remember the victioms of Agent Orange).
Ursula today brought mainly things to play with for the children. A punch or clown theatre for the children.

A warm welcome to Ursula. The nun is a studied teacher for disabled children

Little puppets for the small children
Ursula is always trying to help were the need is the biggest. Since this is a new project there are many thing that need to be solved: Water supply and a new pump systen, a surgery for one of the boys who only has one ear, support for a single mother with a heavily disabled 17 year old boy, a wheelchair for another boy and many other things.
The children showed us at the end of our visit a little show they have prepared for us. It was really amazing to see this children beeing so happy with us. 
A dance for us

Breakdancer!

Ursula with a mentally retarded boy
The nuns were friendly to me an promised to help me to find my sister. They will ask elder nuns in the congregation.
Finally we made a group picture and again many hands waved us goodbye.


From the orphanage we drove to the church auf Hoa Tan. There was a young priest. I found him not very helpful but he agreed to show the poster after the sunday service and ask elder member of the parish about the wife and child. I really hope he will do that.
The Church in Cam Tan (named Hoa Tan)

The house were the priest lives
Then we drove to the farm my father worked on. It was not easy to find, again it is in the middle of nowhere. We passed the station of Cam Tan (still named Hoa Tan - like in the old days) but got lost on a sand road. We phoned the grandson of Marcel van den Berg and they found us on the motorbikes, guiding us to the farm savely.
Lost

Dogs barking at us

Behind this trees is the farm
Impressions from the farm

Madame Doan Thi Duc in her late days

The rebuild old farm house - Did my father live her also?

A very old truck, but still in use

The grandsons who will try their best to find my sister
The two brothers told us that there is another church nearby which belongs to another parish but is closer to the farm. So we went there. The priest didn't open the doors although we asumed that he was at home. But right next to the Church we found a congregation of cistercian monks. We rang the bell and a young man came out and we told him also my story. He promised to speak with the priest from the church and he will also discuss it with some elder monks from the congregation. I saw some old pictures on a wall and he told me that they were made in this area around 1960 (when my father lived here).

Some monks in 1959

On a farm in 1968

The friendly monk
When I came back this afternoon to my hotel room I was really tired. It is again a hot day here in Nha Trang and I hadn't have a breakfast this morning, so I was hungry too. I wenn to a small restaurant right around the corner for some fried noodles with chicken and water spinach with garlic.
I have tried now nearly everything possible to find a hint or a trace of my father's first family.
Many people told me here that they might have emigrated to the US or France after the victory of the revolution in 1975 to avoid persecution as a child with a german father, a former soldier for the French.
I think this is highly possible but if I would try to find there in old files from the French or US Emigration offices or Embassies I need their ful names.
I hope the some of the elder people might remember them and also their names.
To me it was also very emotional to walk a bit in the footsteps of my father, to stand on the farm where he worked 50 years ago as a machinist. To see how the people live there, the near mountains, the rice fields and all the other things.
On the way back we planned to got back soon, talk to the priest and try to find out more. Maybe I will rent a mototbike and go on my own to feel really the situation. I also like to videotape some things for my family at home.
I am not sure today that I can come any further with the search for my sister, but I am proud to have found the place where my father lived in Vietnam.
Thanks again to all the people who helped me.


Dienstag, 7. August 2012

The next steps are ahead

A long journey is always done step by step. This is also with my family research.

On Monday we visited the house of Madame Doan Thi Duc and Marcel van den Berg.
Madame Doan Thi Duc and Marcel van den Berg (around 1973)
In the house lived their son, he died one month ago. I spoke with the widow and her daughter, she came from the US for the mourning celebrations.
First I explained my condolence to the family. They were very friendly and they will try to help me.
They think that my father was a friend of Marcel van den Berg, because he was also a soldier in the Legion Etrangere and was of my father's age. They showed me exactly were the farm is on a map. There also live some members of the family.
My visit to the family in Nha Trang
They even will try to find out the adress of Alain van den Berg in Bordeaux (France). He is the other son of Madame Doan Thi Duc. I tried to find him two years ago, when Fr. Tien from the Bishop's office here in Nha Trang mailed me that he got married in the Church of Pessac. Maybe this time he will help me.
When  Mr. Hue and I returned to his house we met Ursula. A nice German woman who is married to a Vietnamese man. They live half the time in Germany and in Vietnam. She is doing charity work for hospitals and disabled people. We discussed about my search and another lucky situation came up to me:
She will go to Cam Lam (where the farm is) within the next days and she knows a student who is catholic and speaks English and German. We all will drive together to Cam Lam and visit the farm and also speak to the priest in the local parish.
In the afternoon I went to see Fr. Tien from the Bishop's office in Nha Trang himself. He helped me many times in the last two years.
Fr. Tien from the Bishop's office in Nha Trang
Unfortunately he is absent for two weeks. His collegue helped me by giving me the adress of the local parish and the name of the priest. So we can easily find him.
Since we can not go to Cam Lam before Thursday, I have two days to rest and relax a bit.
This morning I went to the beach
Fishing at the beach on Nha Trang
and later I made 30 copies of the poster which we want to hang up in the shops, restaurants, churches in Cam Lam area. (I know I already broke my two days rest by doing that).
But the rest of the day and tomorrow I will be lazy. So, don't worry if I may not write another entry before I come back from Cam Lam on Thursday.